I watched this again and it moved me.
"It is impossible to risk your life to make others glad in God if you are an unforgiving person. If you are wired to see others people's faults and failures and offences, and treat them roughly, you will not take risks for their joy. This wiring - and it is universal in all human beings- must be dismantled. We will not gladly risk to make people glad in God if we hate them, or hold a grudge against them, or are repelled by their faults and foibles. We must become forgiving people.
Don't start raising objections about the hard cases. I am talking about a spirit, not a list of criteria for when we do this or that. Nor am I talking about wimpy grace that can't rebuke or discipline or fight. The question is do we lean toward mercy? Do we default to grace? Do we have a forgiving spirit? Without it we will walk away from need and waste our lives"
Don't waste your life