One of the things that still shocks me in counselling, even after all these years, is how little I often know about people I have counted true friends. I can't tell you how many times, in talking with friends who have come to me for help, that I have been hit with details of difficulty and struggle far beyond anything I would have predicted. Privatism is not just practiced by the lonely unbeliever; it is rampant in the Church as well'
Paul David Tripp,
'Rubble is the ground on which our deepest friendships are built'
quoted by Ed Shaw in 'The Plausibility Problem', Pages 78-79, 80