Friday, October 05, 2007

Questions for parents to ask kids

I often read a blog written by Steve McCoy to keep in touch with things in American church. On his blog recently he was describing some questions that a Pastor friend of his asks their children. It struck me that it wouldn't have ever occurred to my folks to be such emotionally communicative beings, it was a think not something their generation really did and I never expected them to, but these questions seemed to be quite good ones so I share them for use or rejection as you discern. They are obviously the questions a Pastor asks his kids but they can be used by anybody seeking to be an authentic parent to their kids.

Here are the questions. I think they are helpful:

How are your devotions?
What is God teaching you?
In your own words, what is the gospel?
Is there a specific sin you’re aware of that you need my help defeating?
Are you more aware of my encouragement or my criticism?
What’s daddy most passionate about?
Do I act the same at church as I do when I’m at home?
Are you aware of my love for you?
Is there any way I’ve sinned against you that I’ve not repented of?
Do you have any observations for me?
How am I doing as a dad?
How have Sunday’s sermons impacted you?
Does my relationship with mom make you excited to be married?
(On top of these things, with my older kids, I’m always inquiring about their relationship with their friends and making sure God and his gospel are the center of those relationship. And I look for every opportunity to praise their mother and increase their appreciation and love for her.)

Hope these are helpful to some.

2 comments:

tim said...

interesting...as a pastors kid i would say that this approach would wind your kids up and they would immediately see straight through it, simply because it puts dads job first...questions 1-6 are basically there to please other christians and the pastors own sense of well being that he is doing a good God job on his kids, but from a kids point of view i would say he doesnt really begin to talk turkey until question 7...this is not about the kids its about the pastor...just a thought...

David Cooke said...

Thank you for your take. I did't grow up as a PC so it is all new to me! (You see my health warning so people can choose to use or ignore.)